Sentiments Of A Daughter On Mother’s Day
Some gardens are designed. Mine was given to me, one Mother's Day at a time, by a little girl with red hair and muddy hands who grew into one of the most remarkable women I know. Every spring, when the peonies open and the lilacs fill the air, I think of her — not as she is now but as she was then, eyes sparkling with a secret she could barely keep. This blog is dedicated to her and to every bloom she placed in my hands through the years that now grace my yard and my table.
“A mother is your first friend, you best friend, your forever friend. ”
If you are looking for more Mother's Day inspiration, I have also designed a spring tablescape built entirely from love and grandmillennial detail, a quiet morning tea for two with Irish scones and lemon whipped cream, and an outdoor backyard cocktail hour celebrating the mothers who shaped us. Each one tells a different part of the same story.
A Mother's Day table designed with grandmillennial warmth — velvet ruffled placemats, inherited gold flatware, embroidered French blue linen napkins, and a spring centerpiece of parrot tulips and roses. Read the full design story.
Taking Mother's Day outside — a light lavender ginger ale sorbet cocktail, petit fours served on heirloom depression glass, and a table layered with vintage linens and antique serveware. Read the full story.
A quiet Mother's Day morning — Irish scones filled with lemon whipped cream and blueberry jam, pale pink roses in a sterling silver mint julep cup, and Parisian bee napkins found at an estate sale. Read the full story.
A Mother's Day Tradition That Grew Into a Garden
It began simply and beautifully. The day before Mother's Day my husband would whisk Alex away on a little adventure, their destination White Flower Farm nestled in the picturesque Litchfield Hills of Connecticut — a sanctuary of flowering shrubs, trees, and plants where one can lose track of time entirely wandering among the blooms. With great deliberation and barely concealed excitement, she would choose the perfect plant, something she believed would bring me joy, and they would venture into Litchfield Center for lunch before returning home with her carefully guarded secret.
Despite her best efforts, I always sensed her anticipation. But I played along every single time because the ritual of the surprise was as beautiful as the gift itself, and I would not have changed a moment of it for anything.
Designer Hint: The most meaningful design elements in a home are often the ones with a story attached. When you incorporate living things — plants, flowers, trees — that were given with love, every bloom becomes a memory as much as a design choice.
A Spring Garden Built One Gift at a Time
On Mother's Day morning, Alex would present her chosen plant, and together after brunch, we would go outside and find it a home in the garden. Over the years, those small gestures grew into something extraordinary. Today, my yard holds beautiful flowering lilacs — including one deep purple variety with white edges whose fragrance is simply spectacular — along with peonies, hydrangeas, a dogwood tree that now stands approximately ten feet tall, lavender, roses, and daisies. Each one blooms at a different time of year, and each one carries her name as much as its own.
““I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to have my senses put in order.””
The Garden in Bloom — A Living Portrait of Her Gifts
Every color on this table began outside my window. The deep purple of the lilacs, the soft pink of the peonies, the blue of the hydrangeas, and the creamy warmth of the roses — these are not design choices pulled from a trend board. They are the colors of a garden grown from love, translated onto linen and china, and gathered blooms so that the beauty living outside could be felt inside as well.
My favorite! A peony tree. It was one of the very first gifts given to me by my daughter. About four years ago, it was damaged by an ice storm. I’ve been nursing it back to health. It took years to get a new bloom, and this year, I am happy to say it has at least two! It is happy once again!
These are not simply photographs of flowers. They are a portrait of a relationship built one Mother's Day at a time, each bloom a chapter in a story that began with a little girl presenting dandelions with muddy hands and grew into something I could never have imagined. The lilacs, the peonies, the hydrangeas, the dogwood, the roses — they arrived as small and tender things and they have grown into something magnificent and enduring, exactly as she has.
I share them here because no tablescape I design will ever be more beautiful than the garden that inspired it, and no design philosophy I hold will ever feel more true than this — that the most extraordinary things we create are always rooted in love.
A peony…pink and pinker!
This lilac is one of my unique species. It is deep purple with white on the edges. It’s simply spectacular!
Awwww! My lilac tree! I love this one. Its scent is fantastic!
One of my hydrangea’s blooms. This one has different hues, pinks, and purples.
My beautiful dogwood, approximately ten feet in height, holds a special place in my heart. As it reached for the sky, so did my beloved daughter, Alex. Each spring, when its delicate blossoms emerge, it's a poignant reminder of her growth, a living chronicle of our shared time.
A beautiful rose that was giving to me just a few years ago.
A Mother's Day Tablescape Inspired by the Garden She Built
When it came time to design this Mother's Day table, the inspiration was already growing outside my window. I pulled the colors directly from the garden she built for me — purples, pinks, blues, and soft creams — and brought them indoors as a centerpiece filled with roses, hyacinths, delphiniums, and orchids. The fragrance alone from the roses and hyacinths together is extraordinary, the kind of scent that makes a room feel like a garden in full bloom.
The table began with an antique white linen tablecloth as the foundation, over which I layered a French Jacquard linen runner in rich purples and pinks that echo the lilacs and peonies blooming just outside. The napkins are in the same French Jacquard fabric — their substantial texture and beautiful pattern adding an elegance and tactile warmth to the setting that I always look for in a well-designed table. These linens do not just complement the flowers—they continue their story.
Designer Hint: When designing a spring tablescape, begin with the colors you see in your own garden or in the flowers you love most. Nature has already done the color work for you — your job is simply to translate it onto the table.
Layering Spring Place Settings with Vintage Blue and White Spode
For the place settings, I initially considered using only the cream-textured chargers, since their surface detail is so beautiful on its own. But when I added the vintage blue-and-white Spode plates, something entirely unexpected happened—the contrast was stunning. The pop of blue and the delicate floral rim of the Spode plate against the cream charger created exactly the kind of layered visual interest I was looking for, something that felt like a garden in itself. The blue in the plate picks up every blue note across the entire tablescape and ties it all together in a way that feels effortless, even though it was anything but.
I completed each place setting with paisley-etched cocktail glasses with a platinum rim — elegant yet romantic and casual, perfect for a Mother's Day brunch. Glassware with etching and texture always adds a softness and intimacy to a table that plain glass simply cannot replicate.
“Here’s to strong women. May we know then. May we be them. May we raise them. ”
Spring Centerpiece Design — Roses, Hyacinths and David Austin Blooms
The centerpiece is the heart of this table and it carries the full color story of the garden into the room. Roses in soft pinks, fragrant hyacinths, tall delphinium in deep blue, and elegant orchids fill the arrangement with mixed textures and layers of color that feel abundant rather than arranged.
My David Austin roses are among my favorite blooms for any centerpiece — their ruffled old-fashioned petals and extraordinary fragrance make them irreplaceable, and here they carry the spirit of the garden they came from directly onto the table.
I created smaller floral arrangements to complement the main centerpiece, positioning them at intervals around the table as quiet accents that maintained the overall design once the larger centerpiece was removed for the meal itself.
The orchid is one of nature's most quietly extraordinary blooms — elegant without effort, present without demanding attention. Tucked into these small arrangements, they brought a softness and refinement to the table that felt entirely right for a day devoted to celebrating the women who shape us. A beautiful note worth knowing — organic orchids are edible, making them as lovely on a dessert plate or garnishing a cocktail glass as they are in an arrangement.
Small arrangements placed at intervals around the table — each one a quiet echo of the centerpiece, designed to carry the color story of the garden through every corner of the gathering.
Each small arrangement echoed the blooms in the larger one and evoked the small plantings Alex once gave me that have since grown into the magnificent garden I tend today.
The Mother's Day Brunch Cocktail
For the brunch cocktail I poured Prosecco and added just a drizzle of grenadine, garnishing with an edible orchid bloom. Orchids are one of my favorite flowers for garnishing drinks and desserts — their elegance and color make even a simple glass feel like a celebration. I gave my daughter the same glass with Sprite so she could feel equally fancy, which she absolutely did.
What child doesn’t like sweet ice cream with chocolate sauce and whipped cream on the top! Such a special dessert when placed on a paper doily in a shinny antique coupe glass
A Garden That Grows With Her
Today, nothing gives me more pleasure than walking through my yard and seeing what she gave me. No matter the season, something is always in bloom, and something always reminds me of her. She is grown now and living out of state, but I have no doubt that one day she will carry this tradition forward in her own home and her own garden — because that is what love passed between mothers and daughters looks like when it takes root.
“I go to nature to be soothed and healed, and to have my senses put in order.
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The centerpiece's different colors are also found throughout the tablescape, creating a more cohesive table design.
Every detail on this table tells a piece of the story — the etched glasses that catch the light just so, the Simon Pearce vase holding its quiet arrangement, the orchid in the bud vase, the silver flatware inherited and loved, and the sweet pink cake plate shaped like a bloom. Together they create something that feels less like a designed table and more like a gathering place where beauty and memory live side by side.
This blog is dedicated to Alex and to all the mothers and daughters who have built something beautiful together, one small gesture at a time. We lift each other, we celebrate each other, and we carry each other forward through every season.
“Mother’s love is bliss, is peace.”
Alex then and now. How quickly our children grow!
She started as a little girl with red hair and muddy hands, barely able to contain her excitement on the drive home from White Flower Farm. Today, she is a remarkable young woman living her own life, building her own story. But every spring when the peonies open and the lilacs bloom I see both versions of her at once — the child who gave me flowers and the woman she became. This garden is hers as much as it is mine. And that is the most beautiful thing about it.
Here’s a video of my table design….ENJOY!
“May your home be a place where friends meet, family gathers, and love grows. ”
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